None of us ever want to be “THAT girl”…. Yeah, y’all know who I’m talking about. She’s the girl many of us try to avoid. The one we point out to others. The clingy girlfriend. The girl who knows everything about everyone. The one that usually attracts attention. The slut. The girl who thinks she has the perfect relationship. The sweatshirt, leggings and UGG boot wearing chick. The one who is oblivious to her actions and their consequences. The poor girl you are dying to help if you had the guts to confront her.
My favorite songwriter whom I respect oh so much actually wrote a song about “that girl.” Yep, it’s true. She describes her by saying “she’s not a saint and she’s not what you think, she’s an actress. She’s better known for the things that she does on the mattress.” You see where I’m going with this now? She’s not your cute little girl next door who everyone loves and wants to be friends with. No. She’s difficult and she’s frustrating. Most people don’t like her behind her back, but there’s a catch to this post….
I’m sorry to say, but I think we all have a piece of HER in us at some point in time; even if it is for just a second here or there. I also think it scares us to know that we could become her one day to some degree. That people could refer to us as “that girl”. Some of you may be appalled that I just said that…but think about it for a second. No matter who you are, you are still human, therefore, you still have sin in your life. So….sin trips us up right? Yeah. It can and it does. If you look at the list of qualities of “that girl,” have you ever struggled with one of those characteristics? Have you ever embodied one of them? Even for a second?
Your boyfriend went out of town for an event and he can’t talk to you….
You go out of your way to do something just to get that person’s attention
You see a cute dress!!! It’s a little low and a little short….do you still buy it?
He has poker night with the guys…JUST the guys.
You just heard some juicy gossip that you can barely contain…
You’re just a little bit louder when a certain someone is in the room….
So….Did any of those fit you? Ever? If I had to bet, I would probably have to say that they did. I know that I can pick out a few times…er, several times when I was “that girl.” Am I happy about it? No. Not at all. Is there anything I can do about it now? No. Do we all make mistakes? Yes. But does it do anything to sit here and dwell on that past? No. So what are we to do about it?
Well, we can remember this. God has forgiven us for anything we’ve done. He doesn’t keep track of our sins (Ps 103:10-12) as long as we accept the gift of salvation through Jesus Christ and turn from our sinful ways. No matter how bad you think you are, no matter how many times you’ve screwed up in your life, God still loves you. You are valuable to him. I don’t care how you feel about yourself, God sees past all that crap in your life that you can’t seem to let go of and He still loves you. Why? Because of his grace. Yeah, I know. I agree. We don’t deserve it in the least bit, but that’s why it can only come from God. Because he is the only one capable of doing such a crazy thing.
Know this. God loves you. He chose you. He understands that you are human and that you will make mistakes. But that doesn’t stop him from wanting a relationship with you. Just because you become “that girl” for a bit or you were “that girl” in your past, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you. I promise you He does. Believe me. Read the story of Gomer and Hosea. It will blow your mind and change your life, I know it impacted me quite a bit this past year. It’s an amazing, redemptive story about God’s love for his people that turn away from him.
Ephesians 2:3-5 New Living Translation (NLT)
3 All of us used to live that way, following the passionate desires and inclinations of our sinful nature. By our very nature we were subject to God’s anger, just like everyone else.
4 But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, 5 that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God’s grace that you have been saved!)